This post has been a long time coming. I made a little pact with myself on Cammy’s birthday to harbor a little less anger, feel a little less stressed, and start enjoying the quality of life a little more because I had a horrible week the week before her birthday with people who weren’t in good places in their lives trying to affect mine. Nice try. Not possible when you wake up to the little girl I wake up to everyday and a husband that loves and cares for both of us..and a job that I beyond adore.
A lot of other photographers and business owners will message me and ask me about building my business pregnant and with Cammy, running it, shooting weddings pregnant, etc. There is this generalized idea for some reason that if you are building a business, that should come first, and once it’s up and running– THEN you start your family…well, not for all of us.
The October before last, my husband and I were at Winefest in Norfolk and he was talking to this little boy. The way he was interacting with him was literally the cutest thing EVER and my baby fever was at an all time high just 3 months after getting married. Then, I started training for a job that had me around babies all day. THAT was it. I was hooked! I wanted to start a family. So naturally, looking for ENCOURAGEMENT (because that’s what people on your friends list should be giving you!) I posted something on my personal Facebook about wanting to start a family.
Most people were encouraging, but others were NOT. Some people that I didn’t feel that close to were telling me that I need to treat my business as my baby first. I’m sorry– what? A business is not a baby. It’s not my family. Life is SHORT, at the end of the day, FAMILY is what we want. Sure business is SUPER important, but why can’t I do both!? It was even worse when people we were close to were telling us to be patient, wait, etc. They just don’t understand our hearts. Mike and I would literally gush over any child in public and just go home and say, “someday, someday!” and thank goodness we started trying early because it took us half a year to conceive!
If you ARE a loving parent and you are emotionally invested in your child– they can INSPIRE YOU and they can better YOU as an individual, business owner, person, wife, etc! I know, I am a little sassy at times..but my life is infinitely better because of my little angel. I shot EVERY single wedding of the year last year pregnant with her and my belly and business grew in sync with one another. Now, as Cammy grows, so does my drive to get better and better and produce more beautiful work for more-than-deserving clients <3
If we had waited to start our family, I don’t know what we would be doing now. SURE, we could go on vacation at the drop of a hat..we could have all the time in the world to ourselves but as much as we love each other, we always felt like there was something missing in our house. Not just a baby, but a Cammy. She makes us whole and she brings SUCH joy to others that we know she was meant to be in this world ASAP.
I can not imagine waiting to start my family, my life, the true purpose of living and life for us just because someone else said we need to put business first or “enjoy each other first” (weirdest thing you’ll ever hear…you probably shouldn’t marry someone who you WON’T enjoy after having kids lol!). YES it was so so soooo hard this first year but I also didn’t have a system implemented for babysitting to correspond with booking sessions and weddings. I still did the best I could though and my clients are the kind with the biggest hearts who love and adore Cammy and know I am doing my best always!
If you are always wanting to take that leap and live your lifeand start YOUR family now, that is YOUR decision. If you and your partner’s heart can’t keep standing to not even try, do what’s best for you! If I can do it, so can you! There is NOTHING like being a parent if that’s something that you want for your life.
So—to those who said wait, here I am shooting my promo video WITH my inspiration in front of my camera. None of this would have been possible without her 🙂