This post has been a long time coming. I made a little pact with myself on Cammy’s birthday to harbor a little less anger, feel a little less stressed, and start enjoying the quality of life a little more because I had a horrible week the week before her birthday with people who weren’t in good places in their lives trying to affect mine. Nice try. Not possible when you wake up to the little girl I wake up to everyday and a husband that loves and cares for both of us..and a job that I beyond adore.

A lot of other photographers and business owners will message me and ask me about building my business pregnant and with Cammy, running it, shooting weddings pregnant, etc. There is this generalized idea for some reason that if you are building a business, that should come first, and once it’s up and running– THEN you start your family…well, not for all of us.

The October before last, my husband and I were at Winefest in Norfolk and he was talking to this little boy. The way he was interacting with him was literally the cutest thing EVER and my baby fever was at an all time high just 3 months after getting married. Then, I started training for a job that had me around babies all day. THAT was it. I was hooked! I wanted to start a family. So naturally, looking for ENCOURAGEMENT (because that’s what people on your friends list should be giving you!) I posted something on my personal Facebook about wanting to start a family.

Most people were encouraging, but others were NOT. Some people that I didn’t feel that close to were telling me that I need to treat my business as my baby first. I’m sorry– what? A business is not a baby. It’s not my family. Life is SHORT, at the end of the day, FAMILY is what we want. Sure business is SUPER important, but why can’t I do both!? It was even worse when people we were close to were telling us to be patient, wait, etc. They just don’t understand our hearts. Mike and I would literally gush over any child in public and just go home and say, “someday, someday!” and thank goodness we started trying early because it took us half a year to conceive!

If you ARE a loving parent and you are emotionally invested in your child– they can INSPIRE YOU and they can better YOU as an individual, business owner, person, wife, etc! I know, I am a little sassy at times..but my life is infinitely better because of my little angel. I shot EVERY single wedding of the year last year pregnant with her and my belly and business grew in sync with one another. Now, as Cammy grows, so does my drive to get better and better and produce more beautiful work for more-than-deserving clients <3

If we had waited to start our family, I don’t know what we would be doing now. SURE, we could go on vacation at the drop of a hat..we could have all the time in the world to ourselves but as much as we love each other, we always felt like there was something missing in our house. Not just a baby, but a Cammy. She makes us whole and she brings SUCH joy to others that we know she was meant to be in this world ASAP.

I can not imagine waiting to start my family, my life, the true purpose of living and life for us just because someone else said we need to put business first or “enjoy each other first” (weirdest thing you’ll ever hear…you probably shouldn’t marry someone who you WON’T enjoy after having kids lol!). YES it was so so soooo hard this first year but I also didn’t have a system implemented for babysitting to correspond with booking sessions and weddings. I still did the best I could though and my clients are the kind with the biggest hearts who love and adore Cammy and know I am doing my best always!

So…
If you are always wanting to take that leap and live your lifeand start YOUR family now, that is YOUR decision. If you and your partner’s heart can’t keep standing to not even try, do what’s best for you! If I can do it, so can you! There is NOTHING like being a parent if that’s something that you want for your life.

So—to those who said wait, here I am shooting my promo video WITH my inspiration in front of my camera. None of this would have been possible without her 🙂

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Posted by:amandahedgepeth

Hey there! We're a husband and wife team who has the honor to document inspiring wedding days for the most cheerful couples around. We have three daughters lovingly referred to as the mermaid mafia and we love nothing more than salty beach days, laughing as much as possible and living the simple, good life.

6 replies on “Making Your Family | Personal

  1. The hard part is when you miss soccer games or field trips because of the work you choose to do. I struggle with the desire to be a business woman and being there for my two children. I have never regretted starting my family at the same time I started my business but sometimes I feel guilt on both sides. But I think that’s just part of being a mom! 🙂

  2. So beautifully said Amanda! We have 3 little ones under 5 and we love our every single crazy busy day. Being a parent is the best adventure life has to offer. You should be so proud of you, your beautiful baby girl and your fabulous talent!

  3. Amanda, I am so extremely happy for you & after reading your post, I couldn’t agree with you more. I remember when you first started trying to “make”a amazing, beautiful, adorable, wonderful, equally sassy Cammy. I told you to just keep trying & I knew then that you would both make amazing patents. You definitely didn’t miss the mark & you went above & beyond in sooooo many ways, with you’re family & your business! As one of your first models & a friend, I feel honored to gave been able to watch everything you’ve accomplished grow from the small dream-seed you believed in! This post makes me believe that my time to begin mommy-hood will come when I’m ready for it because I believe in it with all of my heart, especially with Mason. I hope to have half the happiness you’ve found… I feel like it’s with in my near reach… 😉 Love you lady! Keep up the amazing work sweetie!!!

  4. Amanda, I am so extremely happy for you & after reading your post, I couldn’t agree with you more. I remember when you first started trying to “make”an amazing, beautiful, adorable, wonderful, equally sassy Cammy. I told you to just keep trying & I knew then that you would both make amazing parents. You definitely didn’t miss the mark & you went above & beyond in sooooo many ways, with you’re family & your business! As one of your first models & a friend, I feel honored to gave been able to watch everything you’ve accomplished grow from the small dream-seed you believed in! This post makes me believe that my time to begin mommy-hood will come when I’m ready for it because I believe in it with all of my heart, especially with Mason. I hope to have half the happiness you’ve found… I feel like it’s with in my near reach… 😉 Love you lady! Keep up the amazing work sweetie!!!

  5. Darlin, I worked that same dead end job with you, surrounded by babies……I couldn’t agree more, baby fever to the max!! Mike & I do the same thing when we see babies!! Heck, you saw him with Cammy!!!!! *MELT* I hoped for nothing but the best for you when you left that job. Finally, I thought, someone is going to leave this place and GO SOMEWHERE!! You’ve inspired me SO much, you know that. Your sweet soul and kind heart ooze with happiness, that can intimidate those who are unhappy with themselves or their lives. They aren’t worth a smile fading from your pretty face!! Watching you and your business grow has been quite a trip!! You never cease to amaze me and you deserve EVERYTHING you have!! You earned it!!!! No one can take that from you!! I just love your family!! You’re a determined fun sized & sassy little lady….if they don’t know by now, NO ONE will stand in your way 🙂 <3

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