Should I write this!? Should I post this..I don’t know, it makes me look so vulnerable and I don’t know how ready I am to put this out there.

Well, when it doubt, tell the truth. Don’t bury your burdens, face them.

I hope this reaches the right people and gives them hope. I hope that this sends a message to people who are picking their cameras up and trying to figure out their style, why it can be so hard sometimes, that they’re not the only person scared to hit the “post” button and put an image they created — aka their heart — out there for review and criticism.

Last night I was researching something and ended up falling on to one of my favorite blogs. So, I just started looking through the images, because I ALWAYS am in love with them. And something happened to me that hasn’t happened in WELL over a year, I started getting really upset. Why can’t I make my images look like this!? They are flawless. FLAWLESS. The cleanliness and the colors are something I am always so desperate for and even when I rock it out, get better and improve, and succeed at my little challenges I set for every session…I am still not where I want to be. I set VERY high goals, and I’m not there yet. AND I’m impatient so I WANT IT NOW.

I started crying!!!!!!!! I mean really, really, really crying. I was doing the big big big big big no no in this industry. I was comparing my still kinda beginning to someone else’s middle.

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^So glad Justin & Mary posted this recently 🙂 They’re VERY uplifting!

I got in bed with my shiny new fresh wedding magazine, I’ve been on a roll buying them lately. I have some REALLY cool projects I’ve been giving myself lately to help me learn and grow a lot and those will be shared at a future Q&A 🙂 Mike could tell I’d been crying and he asked why, and I NEVER say I don’t wanna talk about it but that’s all I could say. I was ashamed that I had come so far and improved on SO many artistic and technical levels, and here I was crying that I didn’t have this pristine perfect look I was trying SO hard to achieve. I finally broke down and he reassured me, you WILL get there. You’re already SO close. You know the two things you want to improve on and that you’re trying to achieve in your images, so once you get there you have GOT IT. You’ve got it all, everything you want for you ability and style. He also told me that I knew better when it came to comparing myself.

The only person you should compare yourself to? THE OLD YOU. Your old work. So, that’s what I’m doing today in this post. In ever so perfect timing, I shot Kegan’s engagements recently and she was one of my first models.

Look at the difference. Boy, have I grown- and I need to be PROUD, not critical!!!!!!!!!!

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And, here’s now 🙂

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How could I sit and cry when I have come this far? Because- we ALL do it. My favorite photographers talk about how they’ve done it– they’ve been exactly where I was last night. I guess I got to a point where I was growing SO rapidly that I expected for it to continue, and it kind of hit a wall– and I wanted to do it all FAST. Well, you best believe in the next couple of months I plan to master these goals I’ve set for myself to achieve EXACTLY what I’m going for. I got this, I can do it. Hard work is the only thing standing in the way and I am going to SCHEDULE in practicing weekly- anything from macro shots, to jewelry details, flowers, shoes, clothes, ETC. Everything. IT’S ON 🙂

STAY POSITIVE EVERYONE! You’re never alone!

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16 replies on “Comparison | Personal

  1. What a WONDERFUL post! I literally saved that quote and placed it around my desk so I could read it EVERYDAY about a month ago… it was part of my New Years Resolutions! I am happy that you had the chance to read it as well and truly take it in as a chance to find the inner confidence and skill! I loved seeing your previous work… you truly have come a LONG way! Amazing. 🙂

    1. THANK YOU!!!!!!!!! 🙂 It’s been a while since I got so hard on myself…I was starting out researching because there are a couple of things I KNOW I need to improve on, but sitting and crying isn’t going to fix it! THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!! 🙂 We got this 🙂

  2. I love this. And I needed to hear this now, more than ever. I am SO BAD about comparing my work. It wasn’t until I admitted to a client and friend this week that my pricing is the way it is now because I don’t know what my value is. She looked me in the eye and said, “You’re work is BEAUTIFUL, Nikki. Why can’t you see that yourself? When I look at yours, I see you on the same playing field as the other professionals.”

    Amanda, you have been so wonderful about helping, sharing, providing guidance. You should be so proud of the now, where you are presently. Because the now is what you’ll look back on when you’re in the middle of your adventure, when you’re where you want to be. What you do now is what is going to get you where you’re going. AND LOOK AT THOSE IMAGES OF KEEGAN YOU SHOT LAST WEEK. The colors, the sun flare. You’ve GOT THIS, girl!

    1. Nikki I am the same! When someone says I’m out of their budget I almost want to be like no wait! Pick me, I’ll lower my price! But I can’t imagine KNOWING I spent $20,000!!!!!!!!!!!!!! on my business last year and giving someone a discount because they don’t value me..I love you for your comment, thank you so much I will ALWAYS be there for you! I will never forget how kind are to me! 🙂

  3. girl! i loved your work back then, i LOVE it now. i can’t imagine how great it will be in a year! you are awesome and right where you’re meant to be! don’t worry about other photographers. we’re all different for a reason. embrace it! well, i think you already do it embrace it! haha. just don’t forget it! you’re awesome and so many people love you for YOU! they love you just the way you are so don’t worry. you are the bomb.com! 🙂

    1. ohh thank you ashley! <3 <3 It's just a couple of technical things I am trying to improve on and master..I will get there— I Just have to figure it all out! YOU ARE SO SWEET TO ME!!!!!!!! 🙂

  4. AH! Amanda! I love that you shared this! You are such an awesome encouragement for photographers just beginning in this journey! Thank you for being YOU! 🙂

  5. Thank you for being so open and honest Amanda! I am in the very, very beginning of my business I know just how easy it is to fall in the trap of the comparison game. Such a good reminder to be easier on ourselves and be honest about our journey! XO

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