This blog post is for anyone who’s ever been pregnant, whether you carried your baby for a couple weeks, months, all the way until delivery, if you’ve had one baby, five babies– this is for anyone who’s been through pregnancy. There is something I’ve been noticing for a few years that wasn’t really brought to my attention until I was pregnant myself, and it’s something I want to undo today at least for the readers of this blog.
^Cammy holding my Preggy Pops (found at Babies R Us for nausea)
Women have all kinds of different pregnancy experiences. Some are sick from shortly after conception until the day they deliver. Some never feel a symptom and sneeze and bam, they’ve delivered their baby. But the one thing we can all agree on no matter what kind of pregnancy is occurring is that this IS IN FACT, a HUGE DEAL. Just because pregnancy is something very common and something we see across the world, within all socioeconomic statuses, races, does NOT make it less of a big deal. It’s an extremely big deal…but I see it being played down daily.
I am lucky to be surrounded by people who for the most part do treat pregnancy gently and understand the intense process that it is. This pregnancy for me is just like Cammy’s– it’s hard so far and will be until I enter the second trimester. The first trimester was the most difficult part besides the last three weeks and there is no way to describe how hard it is to wake up every morning as sick as a dog WHILE on medication for sickness. Mine just gets so intense that the medicine can’t cover but so much of it, but at least it’s helping a little. I’m so emotional, I’m so frustrated and I feel so guilty for feeling frustrated and depressed occasionally because I’m SO HAPPY to be pregnant! So grateful and sooo happy, but when you wake up daily knowing you’re going to go through the whole day feeling on edge like you want to throw up– it takes a toll on your emotions ESPECIALLY when you have to solely run a busy business from home.
Am I still able to rock out? Yes! You should have seen me at the wedding this Saturday, I didn’t show my sickness at all, climbing up and down a tall wall during the ceremony to get shots I needed, and it was one of the most physical weddings I’ve worked in a while. My thighs felt like two giant walking bruises the next day but ooohhh when I look through these images I’m SO happy about it! 🙂 But when it comes down to it, I was so physically and mentally exhausted I had to spend $120 to book a hotel room when I live an hour and a half away after the event to rest and sleep. I feel like I did an amazing job as a pregnant woman working through that day, completing the same day slideshow, racing through portraits so fast and keeping up with the fast pace…and I have to stop and say, Amanda– you REALLY just did all of that! While making a human being! This is something I’m going to start calling pregnancy credit.
I want to give credit out there to anyone who is just laying in bed, resting a little longer for that baby. To women who pull over night or double shifts working SO hard. Whether you are 4 weeks or 40 weeks along– ITS HARD. If it’s your 3rd child, it’s STILL hard. While you’re just sitting there! Eating!!! Watching tv! You deserve CREDIT and you should be so proud of yourself. You’re-growing-a-human. And it’s a big deal. And hopefully you have an amazing support system that lets you know every single day how important you are and what an incredible thing you’re doing.
I say this because some women feel under appreciated and aren’t being told how strong and beautiful they are while carrying a baby. I hear these girls say they “wish their husband would do what Mike does” and it breaks my heart. Mike literally treats me like gold and is fully running this household right now on TOP of long hours at his job all week. I mean he does EVERYthing. He will get out of bed to walk to my side of the bed just to help me drink my water because sometimes I’m so sick I can’t even hold my cup without shaking. Every woman deserves pregnancy credit and to be treated like gold while carrying and if you aren’t getting it where it’s due, straighten out your loved ones and make sure they start sending it your way!
Please remember to take it easy girls. This is one of the most important times to slow down in our lives and it’s NOT lazy– it’s being a good mother! I’m still keeping up with editing and emails (the only thing I’ve fallen slightly behind with is mailing items out because ALL of my Office Max stores have been out of document mailers and I haven’t been able to get to the post office!) but I’m resting because I know this is what I need to do. I had to choose to stop feeling guilty for taking care of myself instead of running around 60 mph all day.
Cammy has spent this first trimester with me empathizing by doing the following– and yes this is all true (she’s AMAZING!):
-Lays on the couch with me 2/3 of the day and we watch her shows together..a TODDLER, willing to rest and just lay on the couch. Amazing.
-She gets her own diapers and wipes when she needs a change, literally not kidding, I say oh Cammy you need a new diaper! Can you go get ONE diaper and ONE wipe? And she knows where it is and how to get it.
-She eats the generic purple, orange and red popsicles with me all day
-She holds my water cup up occasionally and asks me to drink water (like she’s reminding me)
-After watching her shows for a few hours I ask her if I can watch one of my movies now and she sits…through the whole thing, while holding my arm..and doesn’t complain. And sidenote— when Chase Crawford comes on the screen during What To Expect While You’re Expecting…she ALWAYS SAYS, “Oooh. A boy. A boy, mommy.” — I think she’s in LOVE! <3
You are strong, you are important, you are a total badass for carrying a child. You are BEAUTIFUL even if you don’t feel like it. You’re incredible because you’re creating a miracle— you deserve to KNOW THIS!
CREDIT YOURSELVES WHERE IT’S DUE LADIES!!!!! 🙂 It’s not easy and you are AMAZING! 🙂