As a vendor, I can’t tell you what a difference it makes to have awesome bridesmaids in your bridal party. More often than not, I have this group of girls I spend almost as much time with as the bride during the day and the good ones make the day different. They change the tone of potentially stressful situations because they love their bride so much they’ll do anything to avoid stress for her. They protect her, they serve her, they respect that this is HER day. They don’t let anything be about them because they know this is THE biggest day of their bride’s life up until now and they are feeling these emotions right along with her. When she gets into her dress, they are there. They are putting the finishing touches on her hair, dress, accessories and making sure she is aisle ready, because they truly love her.
I’ve always said you can tell a lot about a person by the way they treat their waitress. I’ve met people, totally loved them, and then went to dinner with them and watched them whine, complain and treat their server like crap for no good reason and that was it for me..you’re done. It’s the same with wedding vendors. I’ve had plenty of people treat me very very much like the “hired help” and it’s been pretty rough at times. It’s a been while since I’ve had a bridal party treat me that way but I’ve definitely experienced bridesmaids that look at me like some random intrusive person taking too many pictures and have avoided my camera like the plague, or on the opposite side of the spectrum, asked me over and over and OVER to take pictures with them in it. I’ve watched bridesmaids walk away from a bride to go get alcohol while their bride was getting in her wedding dress. I’ve seen them laugh at me and act like I am so incredibly weird while shooting detail shots which YES can look weird while in the making but there is always a reason photographers do strange things. It’s okay! It really doesn’t bother me because they have no idea what I’m putting together and at the end of the day it’s not them I’m worried about.
Awesome bridesmaids pay attention to the bride and her needs, and they watch her quietly to take cues on how she’s feeling and make sure they can avoid meltdowns. They don’t let people come to the bride with a potential issue and instead try to do everything they can to take care of it before it’s even heard by the bride! They get ready earlier than the bride so they can get her into her dress, they hold her train and they drop her veil for pretty portraits later in the day 🙂 They bring her a cocktails but make sure she’s not downing them like water. They fix her flyways and blot her oily face and check her eye makeup. They also treat vendors well 🙂 I LOVE awesome bridesmaids and I can’t thank all of them enough for what a huge difference they make in the day for me. You girls really run SO much of the behind the scenes and today I’m thanking you dearly for being such a huge part of the success of the biggest day of someone’s life! XOXOXOX
Will never forget this bridesmaid crying while her bride was reading a letter from the groom.. 🙂
And will never forget how fun these two were and even made eating cake look ADORABLE 🙂
And here are some other sweet girls from this year that I remember!!! Loved all these bridal parties!!