During busy season, I tend to get very short with my kids during weeks where I just feel like I lack control.
Post snapping on the other side of the mom breakdown, I feel guilty. I feel like I lack control and maturity. I feel like a bad mom. In the moments leading up to the snapping, I’m getting irritated at all the things. I KNOW it’s coming. Instead of doing something to stop it, I keep letting it boil, almost like I want to snap.
Almost like I think it’ll make me feel better and I WANT to just let it all out. What a bad habit, I knew I had to get rid of it and although I will fault again sometime, probably sooner than later…I started trying something else out and guess what!? It’s worked beautifully.
The issue is control. When I feel like I lose control of my daughters behavior and attitude, that’s when I feel the most stressed and most likely to snap. So when I recognized that the lack of control was the trigger, when that feeling arose again I was able to stop it in its tracks before it got to that point.
Whenever I lack control in anything, any situation or feeling…I give it to God. But the BEST way for me to do that is to say, out loud, God…take it! Take this from me and make me feel light again because this anger/frustration/lack of control is TOO HEAVY for me. So when the girls were pushing it and I felt the boiling again…I started saying it out loud…and it WORKED! It really helped me to come back down from my anger high and focus on diffusing the situation versus letting it escalate. Will it help every single time? No…but if it helps a few times a week, I need that. My girls are watching me, they are learning from their mama, and I can’t be explosive every time they frustrate me because of my control issues.
They’re watching me & will mimic:
“As is the mother, so is her daughter” Ezekiel 16:44
It’s my job to comfort them as the Lord comforts me:
“As a mother comforts her child, so will I comfort you” Isaiah 66:13
They are learning from me:
“Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it” Proverbs 22:6
Trust that God can carry your stress/anger:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding” Proverbs 3:5
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