I remember this time last year blogging about feeling SO scared that I wouldn’t be able to love another baby the way I loved Cammy, that I wouldn’t be able to divvy up the attention properly and that my one and only and FIRST baby would feel………less loved. I was scared because I knew it was a possibility, all of it..and people made sure not to sugar coat that for me. But anyone who knows me knows I LOVE the sugar coating, the annoyingly happy optimist I am– maybe some of you could have thrown more of that on there for me? Come on, lol!!!
Real quick point to make…I am writing this for some very sweet hearts that have reached out to me when they announced their second pregnancies and were worried about the transition…and to some people who are afraid to take that step. I feel like the transition from 1 to 2 is generally known as the scariest but I would love to offer my fresh, optimistic perspective out there to anyone thinking of adding one more into the mix of their comfortable family unit of three…having four of us is just SUCH a blessing and I thank God for these amazing babies (yes, I’m thanking God now — did ya see my post last week? Haha, it’s been a journey!!) but I want people to be less scared to grow their family so here it goes!
First things first — I’m not pushing you to add. This is only something YOU can ultimately decide for yourself! My heart was like screaming to add another baby like constantly! Every time Cammy hit another independent milestone…I was like okay, okay, we’re getting closer. Then..May of 2013 just happened to be the right time to try! We were so fortunate to have it happen quickly unlike the first time around!
Okay– so the pregnancy part. That was hard…I was sick as a dog with Ellie and that’s how I knew it was another girl! Same kind of horrible morning sickness…lasting all day long. I ended up on Zofran and even had a trip to the hospital for dehydration because I couldn’t even consume ice one day. SO– with Cammy (she was 18 months when we got pregnant) that was very, very difficult. I can get through anything though and I made sure to push through– that’s what we wanted, right? Cammy ended up being so dag gone independent she was picking up MY popsicle trash and throwing away her OWN diapers after I changed her! Go Cammy go!! I was so proud and grateful, she is a total little mama! Here’s a video from when I was pregnant and we decided to watch a movie together one morning 🙂 – https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=639234369447901&set=vb.136149589756384&type=2&theater
We were so worried when Ellie was born that Cammy would feel left out. We really were. She was 2 years old and 2 months when she met her sister and we made SURE to involve her in loving, feeding and taking care of her sister and make her feel so important! We also made sure to spend exclusive time with her occasionally so she knew she was still SO special to us! 🙂 The evening after Ellie was born, we made sure to let Cammy hold her safely and we got the BEST video ever and we cherish those moments so, so, so much!! https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=648459801858691&set=vb.136149589756384&type=2&theater
^ Katie Nesbitt Photography 🙂
And you know what? The hardest part for the first couple of months was the fact that Cammy was potty training. That was soooooo…..oh gosh, just gross and messy and hard while I was holding a newborn! By 2 1/2….sister had it DOWN PAT and we were good to go! Actually…a fun fact is that the day we moved here to the Outer Banks was the beginning of her never having another bad accident again!! It was pretty awesome, we took that as a GREAT sign haha! 🙂
Ellie was cute to Cammy and kind of a doll…but generally boring to her as a playmate. Cammy didn’t NOT love her, she just didn’t pay too much attention to her for months and months. Seemed normal to me..Ellie didn’t really do anything but sit there and eat and sleep all day..so I wasn’t worried! Then…around 6 and 7 months when Ellie started being more vocal and rolling around more, Cammy started having fun with her! Talking to her, trying to play..but then generally giving up after a while because she found her pretty boring still hahah!
^ Lundy Photography
When Ellie started to try to walk around 9 months..the most incredible little thing happened. Cammy got REALLY interested in her. She thought– oh this kid is more mobile now and that is kind of FUN! She started to pick her up (YES– even though Ellie is almost her weight haha!) and take her sisters little hands..and walk her around. Cammy most definitely taught her sister to walk and by 10 months Ellie had it nailed! Now they do fight over toys, but oh they play and it’s beautiful! Ellie does occasionally purposefully rip Cammy’s hair out in her sweaty little chubby fingers and also she takes Cammy’s lips and twists them in her hands when she’s really mad..but I LOVE watching her stick up for herself hahaha! We aren’t violent, I swear! They’re just close in age and it kind of comes with the territory 🙂
And now. NOW. Please go watch this video!!! This is from a couple weeks ago in the hotel during the Creative at Heart Conference and they do this kind of thing ALL the time now! I love it– I KNOW I have given Cammy a life long best friend and someone who will stick up for her and vice versa…there is nothing like having a sister! My little seastars were worth all of the morning sickness, stress and hard times that came along with raising two so close together. We wanted it that way and we are so glad we went for it because we have double the joy now!!! 🙂
^ Lundy Photography
If you haven’t met us before or seen Ellie’s birth video/Move to OBX story yet….it’s here, posted below! We love you We Are The Mitchells 🙂
Year one with the seastars…it was incredible. We moved to the most beautiful place, we traveled SO many places together for Mommy’s work, we laughed, we cried, we changed a LOT of diapers but we all did it as a team and I can’t imagine life any differently 🙂 Happy Friday!